Pacifiers & Bottles

During my breastfeeding class I learned that if you introduce a pacifier or bottle too early it can interfere with latching. This is what I understood. Well, I was determined to breastfeed so I didn't let a pacifier or bottle near my baby for 2 weeks! 

Every baby is different, but mine didn't have a problem and she took to breastfeeding right away.  She always latched fine and she never refused to nurse.  During her 2nd day, I remember allowing her to nurse as long as she wanted.  She nursed a total of 45 minutes on one side!

Even though I was so happy that we were on a good path of nursing, when I finally introduced her to a pacifier or bottle - she refused it!  I tried and tried, but nothing worked.  I even dipped the pacifier in Karo syrup, and she still didn't want it.

From my experience I suggest introducing either a pacifier or bottle sooner than 2 weeks.  If you are wanting to pump and feed, a bottle is the only way you'll be able to feed your baby.  Also, a pacifier can come in handy.  Especially in public when you need to "pacify" your baby until you can nurse them.  We never had this option.  On the bright side, we won't have to take it away from her.  Take it from me, introduce what you plan to use early.


Here she is with a pacifier.  I think this is the only time we took a picture with it in her mouth.

Swings & Bouncy Seats

Most of the books I've read about babies and sleep state that they are against using swings or bouncy seats.  The authors use the argument that the swinging motion (or vibration) restricts self-soothing.  I was already using both when I read these opinions.  At first, I was afraid that I was inhibiting my little one from falling asleep on her own.  I thought about discontinuing the use of these items, but then I learned to value my own mother's intuition above the opinions of others.

Mother's intuition, or your own connection with your baby, is priceless.  No one knows your baby the way you do.  There are many times that you will do something against the opinions of others.  That is okay!  There were many times when I needed relief from the endless rocking in my glider chair.  The swing did the trick!  I also needed the bouncy seat while cooking dinner, taking a shower, doing my hair and make-up, etc. 

In my opinion, these items are necessities!  And, you know what??  My baby has learned to self-soothe.  It comes with time, patience, and love.  In the meantime, I recommend using the swing and bouncy seat to have a little help.  They're also very entertaining for little babies :-)

 

Transitioning to the crib

 

Transitioning from the bassinet to the crib was a big step for me to take.  I remember having the monitor on the highest volume possible.  I probably shocked myself out of bed the first time she cried! 

Having your baby closest to you during the first few weeks of life is so precious.  It's also exhausting and you know that the crib is waiting.  You didn't spend all that time and effort putting it together for nothing!

Newborns have to be sleep trained someday and they can't always be by your bedside.  I was worried that I wouldn't be able to hear her or tend to her needs if I had fallen into a deep sleep.  Trust me, the monitor works just fine!

The anxieties are normal for the first few nights.  It only took me about 3 nights to get past the anxiety I felt.  It's totally normal, but it's the first step you're taking toward independence for your new baby.  Many will follow and each step has its rewards.

No, that won't happen to me!

As soon as you think it won't happen to you, it does.  Children are unpredictable especially when you think you're in control.  There will always be surprises just around the corner.

Your child may scream in a restaurant and cause you to leave without eating.  They may have a poopy diaper in public and you don't have any clean ones.  You may have a planned day out with a friend and you wake up to a fever of 100 degrees.  Unexpected and embarassing moments are in your future with children.  The best thing to tell yourself is "it's all going to be okay."

Some of the memories I have are trying to cope with exploding newborn diapers and dare I say vomit in the crib.  Cleaning up messes can be nerve racking and gross at the same time.  After it was all over I felt as though I had accomplished a big task, and hopefully ready for more in the future.

I have learned that as soon as I say "that won't happen to me"... it does.  I hear comments from other experienced moms who tell me what to expect.  I hope and pray sometimes that my little girl won't do those things, but if she does I will tell myself "it's all going to be okay."

Sleep Training Your Baby

Sleep training. Anything that involves training involves time, effort, patience, practice, and a lot of love.  You will hear tons of advice on how to get your baby to sleep through the night.  When I was sleep deprived, all the advice was kind of irritating to me because nothing worked!  Here are a few facts and tips that helped me make it through the sleep training phase.

A child isn’t born with the understanding of night and day.  In my opinion, that’s why it is important to start “sleep training” as soon as they're born.  Train them by using bright lights and music during the day, and night lights and quiet time at night. 

Hunger is the biggest culprit.  Their tiny little bodies are growing fast and need a lot of nourishment.  Their stomachs are very small too, so no wonder they need to eat often.  Sometimes I experienced feedings every 2 hours in the beginning. 

Sleep promotes more sleep.  I learned this concept from the many books and online articles that I read.  The more long stretches of sleep they experience, the more their bodies learn how to sleep.  Naps are very important for this part of training.  If they miss a nap, they will not make it up at night.  Lost sleep is lost and never regained.  This is why many moms protect their children’s naps J  Click here to see how many hours per day your child should be sleeping.

As babies get older and pass the newborn stage, it’s important to start a bedtime routine.  Lots of books will suggest the routine begin with bath time.  The most important part is what time.  I learned that 8:00 pm is the magic time, and it has been for our daughter.  She responds well to an 8:00 pm bedtime. 

I will continue to elaborate on sleep training in future posts J

Breastfeeding a distracted baby

Breastfeeding a distracted baby can be difficult.  Especially when they want to squirm around, unlatch, and look at everything else but you.  When babies are newborns it's hard to get them to do anything else but nurse.  When they are older, all they want to do is get down and play.  Here are a few tips that have worked for me.

First, we go into her bedroom, turn off the lights, and turn the fan on.  She sleeps with a fan at night.  It helps reduce any noise coming from the living room especially if her daddy is here. Her daddy is a big distraction because she sees him as a playmate who rough-houses.  It's very sweet, but when it's time to nurse, you need as few distractions as possible.

Second, I sit "indian style" so she's cradled in my lap.  I also sit on the edge of a bed.  If I sit in a rocking chair, she tries to roll over and twist around to an awkward position.  Plus, she'll unlatch and try to get down.

Third, I wear a necklace or earrings that she tries to play with.  You have to be careful though.  My little girl wants to pull the earrings out of my ear!  I won't let that happen, but the earring distracts her so she'll keep nursing instead of turn around.

Insomnia

When will I ever get sleep again?  Even though my baby is sleeping through the night, everything wakes me up!  I never used to be a light sleeper, but after sleep deprivation from a newborn it's difficult to return to a normal sleep schedule.

I have developed the mother's ear and have become a very light sleeper.  Even with the monitor on, I will think I've heard my baby cry when in fact it's just my imagination.  My husband's snoring keeps me awake and it never bothered me before.  I'll even hear thunder and rain outside and it will wake me up.

I've tried taking over-the-counter sleep medication.  The situation never fails.  After I take one, my little one wakes up at 11:00 pm because of teething pain or something else.  Then, I'm sitting in a rocking chair rocking her in my arms while I finally feel sleepy.  Luckily I'm able to get her back to sleep quickly so I can return to bed.  Unfortunately a continuous and undisturbed rest has not taken place.

I know it will work itself out in time.  Developing good sleeping habits is all about routine.  I just have to be patient until my routine settles back in. 

Breastfeeding... is your baby getting enough?

Breastfeeding hasn't always been popular.  Sometimes you will hear critics while you're breastfeeding.  The most common comment is that your baby isn't "getting enough".

When my grandmothers were having babies, doctors were not encouraging them to breastfeed. They were telling them that formula was the best option because it gave specific vitamins and nutrients.  They didn't have the technology to study breast milk like they do today.  They also didn't know that it contains the best nourishment.  Human milk is best for human babies.

Growing up, I heard the phrases: "the baby's not satisfied" or "she didn't produce enough milk".  Even though these situations do happen, it may not be the case for you.  In spite of it all, you'll still hear criticism from some learking individuals out there.  How to feel secure?  Here's how...

Your baby should be wetting around 5-6 diapers per day and having regular dirty diapers.  Some babies will have a dirty diaper with each feeding.  Mine came close, but she didn't have one every time.  Click here to learn more about what is normal for your baby's dirty diapers.

Your doctor will schedule regular check-ups where you can keep track of his or her weight.  As long as the doctor says your baby is progressing in weight, you're fine. 

Another way to tell is that you'll feel the "let down" of your milk and you will hear your baby drinking.  If you still feel insecure about your milk supply, you can always talk with a lactation consultant and schedule a visit.  They can measure the amount of milk during the feeding.  They will weigh the baby before and after each feeding to see how many ounces were received.  It's quite interesting!

Baby's Sleep

I was desperate to get my baby to sleep. She didn't develop a normal nighttime sleep habit until she was 9 1/2 months. I tried it ALL during those months. I researched all the articles online, checked out books in the library, and asked other mothers for advice. Anything to get some sleep.

I read the book Baby Wise while I was pregnant and thought I was an expert on baby's sleep. I was determined that I wasn't going to be sleep deprived for long! I pictured in my mind how my daughter's daily (and nightly) routine would look like. I was wrong!

After she was born, I realized that I needed some help so I read two more books: 12 Hours of Sleep by 12 Weeks Old and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. I learned lots of tips and they were all helpful, but what I didn't completely understand was that my baby was an individual and no matter how many books I read, it wasn't going to change her.

First and foremost, your child is unique. They are born with their particular temperament.  I needed to understand that she needed to be sleep trained.  The word is: training.  Anything that involves training involves time, effort, patience, practice, and a lot of love.  I’ll elaborate more on sleep training in future posts J

Unlatching & No Pain

The last thing you want to do is pull your baby off without unlatching properly.  I remember talking to a friend who said that she just pulled her baby off and it hurt really bad.  Yes it would hurt!! Ouch!  I have a tip on how to unlatch without pain.

During my breastfeeding class I was taught to stick my finger in the corner of her mouth to release the suction.  I've also read this in many books and online.  However, I have long nails and it didn't seem that comfortable for me at first.  It's also impossible to constantly wash your hands and keep them clean, especially when you're breastfeeding every 2 hours.  I also thought about how clean (or not so clean) my hands were.

This is what I started to do... I would take my thumb or index finger and touch right above her lip, kind of like in the "mustache" area and lift up her lip.  This sounds funny, but make your baby do the "Elvis lip"  LOL!  This releases the suction without putting your finger in her mouth, and potentially scraping her gums with your nail.  This has worked for me every time!

Thankful for baby shower gifts

Yes, you need diapers, onesies, and footed pajamas.  You will go through a ton!  But, what about those gifts that last?  I have a few gifts that I am most thankful for from my showers.  These gifts have lasted me 12 months!

First, washable and disposable diaper changing pads.  My aunt gave me machine washable diaper changing pads.  I have one in pink and one in green.  They are perfect!  We have used them every day since my daughter's birth.  They are so easy to throw in the wash and have another one on hand.  You need extra protection during diaper changes for sure.  A friend from my work gave me these: Huggies disposable changing pads.  These definitely come in handy during the first couple of months.  Newborn babies have diaper mishaps all the time, and you never know when they're coming.  The disposables are great for BIG mishaps :-)

Second, a large hooded towel.  My cousin gave me a cute yellow duck hooded towel.  It is adorable!  We definitely have used this throughout the year.  The hood is especially helpful if your baby has a lot of hair like mine.

Third, music.  My aunt gave me a 2-disc CD set by Fisher Price.  It's a rain forest theme with lullabies and playtime music.  I never knew how valuable these songs would be!  We've been playing them for our daughter since she was born.  She instantly recognizes the music.  Even today the lullabies help her go to sleep, and the playtime rhythms calm her down when she's in a bad mood.  Great stuff!

Fourth, larger sizes.  Lots of baby shower attendants think of only newborn sizes and then you have tons of only one size.  I was so thankful that I received a few clothes and diapers that were larger than newborn.  The largest size I received was a 9-month footed pajama.  It took a while until she was able to wear it, but I was glad we had it!

Fifth, keepsakes.  I am thankful for handmade keepsakes.  Several of my relatives made handmade blankets, and one of my aunts made a picture frame with my daughter's name.  Keepsakes last forever and have special meaning.  I cherish these, and I am thankful that my daughter has them for years to come.

 

Vaccinations & Baby Tylenol

I wish I had known to give my baby Tylenol or baby acetaminophen before and after her first doctor visit.  We know that it is rough getting those first shots.  I think it was harder on me than her! However, I didn't know what was coming later.  A few hours afterwards she turned into a complete mess!  She was crying uncontrollably and it was impossible to calm her down. 

The doctor said "give your baby Tylenol if she gets a fever". The key word here is "if". I was waiting for a fever to arise and she never developed one.  Finally, without a fever, I gave her Tylenol and within 30 minutes she was back to normal.  Thank goodness!

All babies are different.  Your baby may not respond as mine did.  But just in case, this is what I learned... give her Tylenol at least 30 minutes before her appointment and 4-6 hours afterwards.  By the next morning the crankiness should go away.  Every appointment since has been okay for us. 

I use this acetaminophen chart as a dosage guide.  Keep in mind that not all droppers are the same.

Surviving the nighttime feedings

Sleep is a valuable thing!  Have you ever heard the expression... you'll never appreciate something until you lose it?  When you lose sleep it affects every part of your day.  You can't think, talk, or sometimes eat.  I remember when sleep was more valuable than food.

How do you survive the around the clock feedings?  It's not just "midnight" feedings.  It's around the clock!  Here are a few tips to help you...

Tip # 1 Use a night light during the night.  It's never too early to start teaching your newborn the difference between night and day.  I use the Cloud b Twilight Constellation Night Light.  

It's a little ladybug that projects stars in colors of red, blue, and green. It's great! It's perfect for nighttime diaper changes and feedings.  It continues to be something my baby loves.  She'll be able to use it as a night light for years to come.

 

Tip # 2 When you're a breastfeeding mommy, you need to drink lots of water so you'll have frequent trips to the bathroom.  Use a night light in the bathroom too.  If you keep your environment dim during the night, it also keeps you in a "sleepy" state so you can go back to sleep easily.  Nothing is worse than a bright shining light blaring in your face at 4:00 am!

 

Tip # 3 Use black out curtains in your bedroom.  You never know when your little one will decide to sleep for a couple of hours.  It could be 2:00 pm and the sun is shining bright!  If you keep your room dark it will be easier to sleep in the middle of the day.

 

Tip # 4 Schedule your doctor's appointments, visitors, and trips during a convenient time of day.  If it's difficult to make an 8:00 am doctor appointment, then schedule it for the afternoon next time. 

 

Tip # 5 If you need help, ask for it!  Daily tasks such as laundry, cooking, and cleaning shouldn't get in your way of rest.  I remember wanting to do another load of laundry as soon as my baby went down for a nap.  True, laundry needs to be done.  Just make sure you're taking care of yourself :-)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Worries about SIDS

As mothers, it is natural for us to protect our children.  Whether they are first starting to walk or driving their first car.  I have said many times... I have never completely understood "worry" until I became a mother.

SIDS or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is a VERY scary thought for a new mother.  I probably lost more sleep just worrying about SIDS and my baby.  Reading all of the articles about SIDS can really be frightening.  It is something that we should be aware of, but we must not worry ourselves to the point of sleeplessness.

Listening to your mother's instinct is key.  Create a comfortable sleep environment for your baby, and make sure to use a tight fitting sheet on his or her crib.  Remove all toys, blankets, and stuffed animals.  Also, think about the temperature of your thermostat at home.  My husband likes it cold while I like it comfortable. ;-) Your baby's cheeks and hands will tell you if he or she is cold.

Recently, I read an article about a gentleman named Bill Schmid.  He and his wife lost their precious baby Haley to SIDS.  They created a product called the HALO Sleep Sack for SIDS prevention.  I think this is a wonderful product!  Click here for the article and a link to their website.

Welcome to The Nursing Mommy Blog!

During the past 11 months of motherhood I have experienced many moments where the "light bulb" came on for me.  I thought "Goodness! If I had just known about this a month ago, my life would've been so much easier!" 

The purpose of this blog is to share all of these "light bulb" moments with you.  I want to encourage and empower all mothers through the journey of motherhood.  I plan to share tips on caring for a new baby, living with sleep deprivation, breastfeeding, and much more.

Breastfeeding isn't easy, however the benefits for you and your baby are priceless.  Join me as we embark on this journey together.  Share with other moms, moms-to-be, and grandmothers.  This is going to be fun!!