Toddler/Baby Food Recipe

Here's a great recipe for Toddlers.  I discovered this pasta called Ditalini.  It's in the perfect shape for little eaters.  Easy to pick up.  Easy to chew and swallow.

Here's my homemade recipe:

2 cooked chicken breasts, cut in small pieces
2 cups of uncooked Ditalini pasta
1 small can of peas & carrots

For cheese sauce:
1 cup milk
1/2 cup of blended shredded cheese
1/4 cup of parmesan
2 slices of muenster
2 slices of american

Cook the chicken with salt, pepper, garlic powder, and paprika.  Cut the chicken into very small pieces.  Cook the pasta in boiling water for 10-15 minutes.  Make sure the pasta is cooked well.  While the pasta in draining in the colander, melt all of the cheeses with the milk in the pan.  Add the pasta, chicken, and vegetables.  Add salt and pepper to taste and mix well. 

Yields: 2 ice cube trays for freezing

Pacifiers & Bottles

During my breastfeeding class I learned that if you introduce a pacifier or bottle too early it can interfere with latching. This is what I understood. Well, I was determined to breastfeed so I didn't let a pacifier or bottle near my baby for 2 weeks! 

Every baby is different, but mine didn't have a problem and she took to breastfeeding right away.  She always latched fine and she never refused to nurse.  During her 2nd day, I remember allowing her to nurse as long as she wanted.  She nursed a total of 45 minutes on one side!

Even though I was so happy that we were on a good path of nursing, when I finally introduced her to a pacifier or bottle - she refused it!  I tried and tried, but nothing worked.  I even dipped the pacifier in Karo syrup, and she still didn't want it.

From my experience I suggest introducing either a pacifier or bottle sooner than 2 weeks.  If you are wanting to pump and feed, a bottle is the only way you'll be able to feed your baby.  Also, a pacifier can come in handy.  Especially in public when you need to "pacify" your baby until you can nurse them.  We never had this option.  On the bright side, we won't have to take it away from her.  Take it from me, introduce what you plan to use early.


Here she is with a pacifier.  I think this is the only time we took a picture with it in her mouth.

Yogurt for babies

Yogurt is a great snack and addition to a baby's diet.  You can start introducing yogurt after 6 months of age.  My little one loves it!  However, it's best to pay attention to the labels.  Some yogurts are packed full of sugar!

Always check the labels.  Gestational diabetes caused me to check all my labels so I am very used to it.  Watch out for aspartame.  It's very sneaky!  The package will say "light" or "sugar free" and aspartame is lurking in the ingredients. 

There's a lot of controversy about aspartame.  Personally, the endocrinologist told me not to ingest it during pregnancy.  She said that it was not healthy for my developing baby.  If it's not okay for an unborn baby, then I'd assume it's not okay for a growing baby.  I encourage you to do some research and make the decision for yourself. 

My husband and I eat Yoplait, but if you check the label it has 25 grams of sugar!

Stonyfield's YoBaby has only 12 grams of sugar.  It's also made with whole milk that is best for growing babies.

I recommend the brand Stonyfield.  They have yogurts called YoBaby, YoToddler, and YoKids.  Please visit their website for more information.  Fortunately, my community is organic friendly so my local grocery store carries Stonyfield.  If you cannot find it at your local store, you may want to try a health foods store.

Traveling with an infant

I've always been told that traveling with an infant isn't easy.  I thought that meant just packing the car, stopping for diaper changes, and being extra tired.   What I didn't realize is that there's a lot more to traveling with an infant than the obvious.

Children respond well to routine.  Their routine revolves around their environment.  They are used to their crib, room, toys, etc.  When you are traveling, all of these elements change.  They'll probably take their nap in a car seat rather than their crib.  They will be sleeping overnight in a portable crib rather than their own.  All of these elements shift their routine and ultimately their mood.

My little one takes her naps and goes to bed at the same time every night.  Sometimes we have to change those times to accomodate our schedule when we travel.  Unfortunately, changing her sleep patterns affects everything.  She's a little bit more cranky than usual and ultimately that affects my trip.

She has many distractions when we're away from home.  It's difficult to get her to sleep for her naps, and at bedtime if she's going down at a later time.  Hotels (or other homes) have different sounds and smells that contribute to her distraction.

Make sure to bring as many familiar items from home to make your little one feel comfortable.  Bring favorite toys and books.  Make sure to pack their favorite foods too.  I know it's difficult to stick to their routine, but it helps to try to keep it as close as possible.

Click this checklist for suggestions of what to pack when traveling.



 

Postpartum Depression

When I heard about postpartum depression I just knew it wouldn't happen to me.  I thought the emotions would be a "reaction" to the event of giving birth or becoming a mother for the first time.  I figured that I was emotionally ready to become a mother.  However, the hormones were completely out of my control. 

I found myself at the mercy of hormones.  Hormones are necessary for our bodies to function properly.  I learned this the hard way during my treatments for endometriosis.  I underwent a hormone induced menopause and learned first-hand about the need for hormone balance.  Little did I know that the same thing happens after giving birth.  The hormonal changes were out of my control and dramatically changed my mood and emotions.

I would cry uncontrollably on the shoulder of my husband.  Literally soaking his shirt.  He was so understanding and kind.  He knew that it wasn't the real me and was patient with me until things went back to normal. 

I wasn't afraid of my baby or the responsibility of her care.  I just had an overwhelming sense of melancholy that lasted all day and night. I'm pretty sure that the sleep deprivation added to my emotions.  Luckily after 4 months, the crying stopped and I started to feel normal again.
 
Personally, I was surprised by postpartum depression.  If it happens to you, please know that you are not alone! It happens to 80% of new mothers.  Please view this article on Baby Center for more information regarding Postpartum Depression.

What is postpartum depression?

Postpartum depression can begin any time during the first two months after you give birth. Symptoms may include:

• Irritability or hypersensitivity
• Difficulty concentrating
• Anxiety and worry
• Crying or tearfulness
• Anger
• Negative feelings such as sadness, hopelessness, helplessness, or guilt
• Loss of interest in activities you usually enjoy
• Difficulty sleeping (especially returning to sleep)
• Fatigue or exhaustion
• Changes in appetite or eating habits
• Headaches, stomachaches, muscle or backaches

 

Refusing to nap

As soon as you think you have it all figured out... babies change!  Each phase has its own quirks.  You'll master swaddling, then they don't need it anymore.  They'll look so cute in an outfit and it's your go-to, then they outgrow it.  The same thing happens with schedules.  You'll find a perfect time that works for your baby and then out of nowhere - they change!

After months of a good sleep schedule, my little one decided to refuse her nap!  This article I found was most helpful.  Here is what Baby Center says about toddlers refusing their naps:

The explanation is simple, though the solution may not be: Toddlers fight the urge to rest simply because they are so interested in what's going on around them. Your curious toddler has so much to see and do and she's afraid that if she naps, she'll miss out on something.

Also, just like other toddlers, your child is beginning to understand that she's separate from you and is her own person, so she asserts her independence whenever she can. Refusing to take a nap is one way she wrests control from you.
 

Finding the Time

What child doesn't want to come home from school to their mom baking cookies? My Mom was a working mom when I was growing up. I always secretly wished to have her home baking cookies for my after school snack. I believe this idea is rooted in creating lasting memories and also warm and fuzzy feelings.

There's something to be said about a traditional wife and mother.  One who cooks and cleans for her family and creates a home not just a house.

My own words haunt me when I find it's impossible to be the perfect mom.  Finding the "time" is sometimes the hardest thing to do.  Laundry, dishes, cooking, etc. take my time.  However, homemaking is the perfect way to show love.

I found this text in an article titled The Art of Homemaking on Focus on the Family.  It's a perfect illustration of homemaking...

Homemaking happens when we fully understand the value of home in our lives. Homemaking happens when we intentionally make home a safe house, a trauma unit, a pep rally, a playground, a school and more. Somebody has to have the time and energy to bring those roles alive in a family's life. Somebody has to make a house a home. Homemaking is majoring in family relationships.

When the kids come home from school and smell cookies baking in the oven, they feel nurtured and cared for. No matter what challenges the school day brought, it fades at the smell of fresh-baked cookies.

When my husband comes home from work and dinner is cooking, he immediately feels that home is a safe place. A refuge. A place where he is cared for. Whatever stress was experienced at work begins to melt as he walks in and knows that food and comfort go hand in hand.

When a friend stops by and smells a pot of coffee brewing, she knows someone was anticipating her arrival. She feels welcome. There is relational warmth extended to her.

When my family comes home to the smell of Pledge or Lysol, they know someone has been caring for the home they live in. There's something about the smell of cleaning products that says, "Everything's okay at home."

Our home is designed to be a place where we can relax, find comfort, feel safe and receive love. Smells can never substitute for quality conversation, physical affection or words of encouragement, but they can have a powerful effect on our emotions and sense of security in the family unit.

Swings & Bouncy Seats

Most of the books I've read about babies and sleep state that they are against using swings or bouncy seats.  The authors use the argument that the swinging motion (or vibration) restricts self-soothing.  I was already using both when I read these opinions.  At first, I was afraid that I was inhibiting my little one from falling asleep on her own.  I thought about discontinuing the use of these items, but then I learned to value my own mother's intuition above the opinions of others.

Mother's intuition, or your own connection with your baby, is priceless.  No one knows your baby the way you do.  There are many times that you will do something against the opinions of others.  That is okay!  There were many times when I needed relief from the endless rocking in my glider chair.  The swing did the trick!  I also needed the bouncy seat while cooking dinner, taking a shower, doing my hair and make-up, etc. 

In my opinion, these items are necessities!  And, you know what??  My baby has learned to self-soothe.  It comes with time, patience, and love.  In the meantime, I recommend using the swing and bouncy seat to have a little help.  They're also very entertaining for little babies :-)

 

Gestational Diabetes

Every pregnant woman has to drink that yucky sugary drink for the blood sugar test.  I almost failed all the tests.  I wasn't too happy when I heard the news.  I was at risk because my mother had gestational diabetes with her second pregnancy.  In spite of the risk, I wanted to avoid it.  Although there was nothing I could do.

It's not fun when genetics are against you.  Neither my diet nor my weight were causing the issues.  Everyone told me it was out of my control, but I still felt responsible.  I remember the first time I had to give myself an insulin shot.  I sat alone in the bathroom with the fan on so I could concentrate.  I kept picturing my baby's face in my mind as I hovered the needle over my thigh.  I knew that I was doing it for her.  It took me a long time but I was able to do it.  At the end of my pregnancy, the shots became second nature to me.

Diabetes needs to be taken seriously.  When I visited the endocrinologist I felt so sorry for all the individuals in the waiting room.  I thought to myself "I only have a few more months and these people have diabetes for the rest of their life."  I was saddened by what I saw.  It definitely opened my eyes to diabetes and how I wanted to avoid it going forward.

I was lucky that my blood sugar levels returned to normal shortly after giving birth.  Each time I checked my blood with the glucometer and it had a normal reading - without insulin - I would get so excited!  It is amazing how our body functions!

Here's a video about how to cope with gestational diabetes.  It's kind of funny but great information:

This video explains what gestational diabetes is:

 

Transitioning to the crib

 

Transitioning from the bassinet to the crib was a big step for me to take.  I remember having the monitor on the highest volume possible.  I probably shocked myself out of bed the first time she cried! 

Having your baby closest to you during the first few weeks of life is so precious.  It's also exhausting and you know that the crib is waiting.  You didn't spend all that time and effort putting it together for nothing!

Newborns have to be sleep trained someday and they can't always be by your bedside.  I was worried that I wouldn't be able to hear her or tend to her needs if I had fallen into a deep sleep.  Trust me, the monitor works just fine!

The anxieties are normal for the first few nights.  It only took me about 3 nights to get past the anxiety I felt.  It's totally normal, but it's the first step you're taking toward independence for your new baby.  Many will follow and each step has its rewards.

No, that won't happen to me!

As soon as you think it won't happen to you, it does.  Children are unpredictable especially when you think you're in control.  There will always be surprises just around the corner.

Your child may scream in a restaurant and cause you to leave without eating.  They may have a poopy diaper in public and you don't have any clean ones.  You may have a planned day out with a friend and you wake up to a fever of 100 degrees.  Unexpected and embarassing moments are in your future with children.  The best thing to tell yourself is "it's all going to be okay."

Some of the memories I have are trying to cope with exploding newborn diapers and dare I say vomit in the crib.  Cleaning up messes can be nerve racking and gross at the same time.  After it was all over I felt as though I had accomplished a big task, and hopefully ready for more in the future.

I have learned that as soon as I say "that won't happen to me"... it does.  I hear comments from other experienced moms who tell me what to expect.  I hope and pray sometimes that my little girl won't do those things, but if she does I will tell myself "it's all going to be okay."

Breastfeeding Tools

These were the tools I used in the beginning of breastfeeding.  They were very helpful for me and I wanted to share them with you!!  Pictured here is my boppy pillow, disposable nursing pads, prenatal vitamins, and nipple cream.

I became very attached to my boppy pillow.  Boppy pillows can be expensive, but you want to find one that you're most comfortable with because you will use it constantly. They are definitely worth the money!  I loved mine because I was able to breastfeed and have my hands free.  I took it everywhere. 

Disposable nursing pads are awesome because they are so absorbent.  I feel silly because I didn't have them in the very beginning, but I definitely needed them!  I always thought about nursing pads as an 'in between feedings' necessity.  What I didn't realize was that you need them during feedings for the other side.  Let down causes the flow of milk on both sides at the same time.  Be sure you have some of these handy.

Prenatal vitamins become your daily routine during pregnancy.  Continuing them while breastfeeding should be second nature to you.  They continue to provide you with the right vitamins while breastfeeding too.  They're great!  My doctor told me that I didn't have to take any of the expensive kinds.  I personally prefer the ones from Target. 

Nipple cream was given to me by my discharge nurse at the hospital.  I am so thankful that she gave it to me!  I hadn't purchased it ahead of time, and to be honest it wasn't on my list of necessities.   I recommend using it during your shower to protect your most sensitive area.  During the first few weeks you are very tender there and need protection.  This kind worked great!

 

Still having your own life

Becoming a mother is the most unselfish thing you will ever do.  Nothing else in life takes over your body for 40 weeks and becomes the center of your world forever.  I am still amazed to see a little of myself and my husband in our little girl.  Watching her grow is fascinating.

I still have memories of what it was like before I became a mother.  Being able to sleep in as long as I wanted.  Being able to go out on a date with my husband any day of the week without prior babysitting arrangements.  Just being able to take a shower without it working around my little one's schedule.  All of these memories are nice to remember, but what about now?  I still need to have a life of my own.

Be open to flexibility to continue a somewhat normal life for yourself.  If it means breastfeeding in the back seat of your car in the parking lot of the mall just to be able to shop, then do it!  If it means going out with your girlfriend for coffee for just an hour, then do it!  Being able to cater to yourself in some way is necessary for your own well being. 

Sleep Training Your Baby

Sleep training. Anything that involves training involves time, effort, patience, practice, and a lot of love.  You will hear tons of advice on how to get your baby to sleep through the night.  When I was sleep deprived, all the advice was kind of irritating to me because nothing worked!  Here are a few facts and tips that helped me make it through the sleep training phase.

A child isn’t born with the understanding of night and day.  In my opinion, that’s why it is important to start “sleep training” as soon as they're born.  Train them by using bright lights and music during the day, and night lights and quiet time at night. 

Hunger is the biggest culprit.  Their tiny little bodies are growing fast and need a lot of nourishment.  Their stomachs are very small too, so no wonder they need to eat often.  Sometimes I experienced feedings every 2 hours in the beginning. 

Sleep promotes more sleep.  I learned this concept from the many books and online articles that I read.  The more long stretches of sleep they experience, the more their bodies learn how to sleep.  Naps are very important for this part of training.  If they miss a nap, they will not make it up at night.  Lost sleep is lost and never regained.  This is why many moms protect their children’s naps J  Click here to see how many hours per day your child should be sleeping.

As babies get older and pass the newborn stage, it’s important to start a bedtime routine.  Lots of books will suggest the routine begin with bath time.  The most important part is what time.  I learned that 8:00 pm is the magic time, and it has been for our daughter.  She responds well to an 8:00 pm bedtime. 

I will continue to elaborate on sleep training in future posts J

My Journey to Motherhood

My journey to motherhood has not been easy.  The many ups and downs I’ve experienced have brought me to a place of gratitude.  Please let me share with you my journey... 

I was diagnosed with endometriosis in December of 2001.  For 10 years I worried about my fertility and whether or not I could conceive.  To preserve my fertility, I had 3 separate laparoscopies to remove the endometrial growths.  I tried every kind of hormonal therapy including all types of birth control.  I experienced days of abdominal pain which resulted in many missed days of school and work.  Through it all, I was able to conceive in January 2011.

I experienced morning sickness and nighttime sickness during the first 4 months of pregnancy.  The nausea was unbearable to the point that I was unable to continue my employment as a banker.  It was difficult to remain professional with my clients while having episodes in the bathroom.  I had a couple of months of relief until symptoms of gestational diabetes set in.

During my 7^th month of pregnancy I felt something wasn’t right.  My blood sugar levels were very high.  The 3^rd trimester is tiring, but diabetes made me very uncomfortable.  Once I was able to see a endocrinologist, I started to feel much better.

The endocrinologist evaluated my blood sugar levels and gave me insulin.  I was required to check my levels every morning and after each meal.  I also gave myself insulin shots before each meal and before bedtime.  I would use a total of 8 needles per day.  I was also required to see my doctor 3 times per week for stress tests to evaluate my baby’s growth and heart rate. 

Toward the end of my pregnancy, I had to double my insulin dosages to maintain my blood sugar level in a healthy range.  For the health of me and my baby, I was scheduled for an induction before my due date.  I experienced every single induction procedure possible.  After 16 hours of labor, the induction resulted in a cesarean.

After all the worry, tests, shots, needles, and record keeping the diabetes went away within hours of birth.  I was so thankful!  My baby’s blood sugar was also fine.  My doctor informed me that from surgery he could confirm that the endometriosis had vanished during pregnancy!!!!  What an amazing miracle!!  Through it all, I am so grateful for this little girl in my life. :-)

Breastfeeding a distracted baby

Breastfeeding a distracted baby can be difficult.  Especially when they want to squirm around, unlatch, and look at everything else but you.  When babies are newborns it's hard to get them to do anything else but nurse.  When they are older, all they want to do is get down and play.  Here are a few tips that have worked for me.

First, we go into her bedroom, turn off the lights, and turn the fan on.  She sleeps with a fan at night.  It helps reduce any noise coming from the living room especially if her daddy is here. Her daddy is a big distraction because she sees him as a playmate who rough-houses.  It's very sweet, but when it's time to nurse, you need as few distractions as possible.

Second, I sit "indian style" so she's cradled in my lap.  I also sit on the edge of a bed.  If I sit in a rocking chair, she tries to roll over and twist around to an awkward position.  Plus, she'll unlatch and try to get down.

Third, I wear a necklace or earrings that she tries to play with.  You have to be careful though.  My little girl wants to pull the earrings out of my ear!  I won't let that happen, but the earring distracts her so she'll keep nursing instead of turn around.

Insomnia

When will I ever get sleep again?  Even though my baby is sleeping through the night, everything wakes me up!  I never used to be a light sleeper, but after sleep deprivation from a newborn it's difficult to return to a normal sleep schedule.

I have developed the mother's ear and have become a very light sleeper.  Even with the monitor on, I will think I've heard my baby cry when in fact it's just my imagination.  My husband's snoring keeps me awake and it never bothered me before.  I'll even hear thunder and rain outside and it will wake me up.

I've tried taking over-the-counter sleep medication.  The situation never fails.  After I take one, my little one wakes up at 11:00 pm because of teething pain or something else.  Then, I'm sitting in a rocking chair rocking her in my arms while I finally feel sleepy.  Luckily I'm able to get her back to sleep quickly so I can return to bed.  Unfortunately a continuous and undisturbed rest has not taken place.

I know it will work itself out in time.  Developing good sleeping habits is all about routine.  I just have to be patient until my routine settles back in. 

Breastfeeding... is your baby getting enough?

Breastfeeding hasn't always been popular.  Sometimes you will hear critics while you're breastfeeding.  The most common comment is that your baby isn't "getting enough".

When my grandmothers were having babies, doctors were not encouraging them to breastfeed. They were telling them that formula was the best option because it gave specific vitamins and nutrients.  They didn't have the technology to study breast milk like they do today.  They also didn't know that it contains the best nourishment.  Human milk is best for human babies.

Growing up, I heard the phrases: "the baby's not satisfied" or "she didn't produce enough milk".  Even though these situations do happen, it may not be the case for you.  In spite of it all, you'll still hear criticism from some learking individuals out there.  How to feel secure?  Here's how...

Your baby should be wetting around 5-6 diapers per day and having regular dirty diapers.  Some babies will have a dirty diaper with each feeding.  Mine came close, but she didn't have one every time.  Click here to learn more about what is normal for your baby's dirty diapers.

Your doctor will schedule regular check-ups where you can keep track of his or her weight.  As long as the doctor says your baby is progressing in weight, you're fine. 

Another way to tell is that you'll feel the "let down" of your milk and you will hear your baby drinking.  If you still feel insecure about your milk supply, you can always talk with a lactation consultant and schedule a visit.  They can measure the amount of milk during the feeding.  They will weigh the baby before and after each feeding to see how many ounces were received.  It's quite interesting!

Baby's Sleep

I was desperate to get my baby to sleep. She didn't develop a normal nighttime sleep habit until she was 9 1/2 months. I tried it ALL during those months. I researched all the articles online, checked out books in the library, and asked other mothers for advice. Anything to get some sleep.

I read the book Baby Wise while I was pregnant and thought I was an expert on baby's sleep. I was determined that I wasn't going to be sleep deprived for long! I pictured in my mind how my daughter's daily (and nightly) routine would look like. I was wrong!

After she was born, I realized that I needed some help so I read two more books: 12 Hours of Sleep by 12 Weeks Old and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. I learned lots of tips and they were all helpful, but what I didn't completely understand was that my baby was an individual and no matter how many books I read, it wasn't going to change her.

First and foremost, your child is unique. They are born with their particular temperament.  I needed to understand that she needed to be sleep trained.  The word is: training.  Anything that involves training involves time, effort, patience, practice, and a lot of love.  I’ll elaborate more on sleep training in future posts J

Unlatching & No Pain

The last thing you want to do is pull your baby off without unlatching properly.  I remember talking to a friend who said that she just pulled her baby off and it hurt really bad.  Yes it would hurt!! Ouch!  I have a tip on how to unlatch without pain.

During my breastfeeding class I was taught to stick my finger in the corner of her mouth to release the suction.  I've also read this in many books and online.  However, I have long nails and it didn't seem that comfortable for me at first.  It's also impossible to constantly wash your hands and keep them clean, especially when you're breastfeeding every 2 hours.  I also thought about how clean (or not so clean) my hands were.

This is what I started to do... I would take my thumb or index finger and touch right above her lip, kind of like in the "mustache" area and lift up her lip.  This sounds funny, but make your baby do the "Elvis lip"  LOL!  This releases the suction without putting your finger in her mouth, and potentially scraping her gums with your nail.  This has worked for me every time!

The Honest Truth: It's not easy

Morning sickness, labor pains, and stretch marks.  I didn’t think much about them until they personally happened to me.  After experiencing 4 months of nausea, gestational diabetes, insulin shots, 16 hours of labor, and a cesarean I’ve pretty much been very honest when someone asks me about motherhood.  I have wondered maybe I shouldn't have been so honest?  Honesty is the best policy J

Sure, it’s easy to look at Facebook pictures of your friends who have become parents and think about how cute their little one is.  Although, they don't post pictures of what’s going on behind the scenes. Here’s a picture of what caring for a newborn looks like…

 

 

Yes, this doesn't look so pretty.  LOL!  It's not easy.  Sleep deprivation can do a number on you.  My baby didn't sleep through the night until she was 9 1/2 months.  We had lots of diaper changes and poo in my hair.  Spit up on my shirt and furniture.  Lots of laundry too.  It's a difficult job, but it's all worth it!

 

After it all, I am so thankful for my health.  The gestational diabetes went away within hours of my delivery.  I also recovered well from surgery.  I had a beautiful image in my mind as to how motherhood would be, and the picture has come true...

 

Cesarean Scar Therapy

I had a cesarean and have wondered many times about the healing process.  I've recently learned that scar tissue can continue to grow for 2 years after surgery.  Wow!  I didn't know that.  I also found an interesting video about scar therapy for a cesarean scar.  This is very interesting!  Take a look:

Weaning & Your Emotions

Breastfeeding creates such a beautiful bond between a mother and baby.  It’s a natural process that provides the best nourishment for a growing child.  Sometimes it’s not always easy and many mothers want to give up.  When weaning starts, and we come to the end, it can sometimes be emotional for us as mothers. 

I am encouraging of my daughter to grow and become independent.  I love watching her through all the stages of crawling, pulling herself up, and soon walking.  I want to guide her through these exciting stages.  It’s interesting and sad to think about ending this special era of breastfeeding.

I’ve recently read this excerpt from the book What to expect: The Toddler Years and I think it’s very helpful regarding weaning and your emotions:

 

If you wait until your son decides he’s ready to graduate to a more grown-up source of liquid nourishment, you may have a very long wait ahead.  Though some babies and toddlers cut back on or discontinue breastfeeding on their own, usually near the end of the first year, others never do.  If you are ready to wean, then you should initiate the weaning process yourself. This is, after all, a two-way partnership and either party can end it at any time.

Watching a child move from one stage of development to another is always a bittersweet experience – filling you at once with pride (how grown up he is!) and with melancholy (he’ll never be a baby again!).  Some rites of passage evoke more mixed feelings than do others.  For many women, weaning their children from the breast is one of those.

Breastfeeding is an undeniably gratifying experience, but breastfeeding indefinitely because you’re not ready to give it up isn’t fair.  If your toddler wants to move on, follow his lead.  Don’t take his rejection of your breast personally.  He isn’t rejecting you, he’s rejecting the babyhood he’s outgrown, and taking another step toward independence.  As unsettling as that may be for you, it’s a step he must take. 

It’s likely that at first you will miss the physical closeness to your toddler that nursing provided.  But if you think about it, there are a host of other activities (hugging, cuddling, playing together, reading together before bed, and so on) that reproduce that closeness.  Enjoy those more frequently instead. 

Because the sadness you’re feeling may be intensified by the haywire hormonal changes that weaning can trigger, you should consider weaning gradually over a period of weeks or even months.  Give both your body and your mind plenty of time to recover and they eventually will.

Thankful for baby shower gifts

Yes, you need diapers, onesies, and footed pajamas.  You will go through a ton!  But, what about those gifts that last?  I have a few gifts that I am most thankful for from my showers.  These gifts have lasted me 12 months!

First, washable and disposable diaper changing pads.  My aunt gave me machine washable diaper changing pads.  I have one in pink and one in green.  They are perfect!  We have used them every day since my daughter's birth.  They are so easy to throw in the wash and have another one on hand.  You need extra protection during diaper changes for sure.  A friend from my work gave me these: Huggies disposable changing pads.  These definitely come in handy during the first couple of months.  Newborn babies have diaper mishaps all the time, and you never know when they're coming.  The disposables are great for BIG mishaps :-)

Second, a large hooded towel.  My cousin gave me a cute yellow duck hooded towel.  It is adorable!  We definitely have used this throughout the year.  The hood is especially helpful if your baby has a lot of hair like mine.

Third, music.  My aunt gave me a 2-disc CD set by Fisher Price.  It's a rain forest theme with lullabies and playtime music.  I never knew how valuable these songs would be!  We've been playing them for our daughter since she was born.  She instantly recognizes the music.  Even today the lullabies help her go to sleep, and the playtime rhythms calm her down when she's in a bad mood.  Great stuff!

Fourth, larger sizes.  Lots of baby shower attendants think of only newborn sizes and then you have tons of only one size.  I was so thankful that I received a few clothes and diapers that were larger than newborn.  The largest size I received was a 9-month footed pajama.  It took a while until she was able to wear it, but I was glad we had it!

Fifth, keepsakes.  I am thankful for handmade keepsakes.  Several of my relatives made handmade blankets, and one of my aunts made a picture frame with my daughter's name.  Keepsakes last forever and have special meaning.  I cherish these, and I am thankful that my daughter has them for years to come.

 

Babies talking in their sleep

My little one wakes me up with her talking if I leave the monitor on all night.  She is asleep, but she makes all kinds of noises.  Apparently this is normal.  Please visit this link on Baby Center for more information on baby's sleeping habits. 

While she was a newborn she would sometimes cry during sleep.  She would also make funny grunting noises or laugh.  Now, she mimics what she says during the day.  Last night around 11:00 pm, I heard her saying "da da" but was still asleep.  So cute!

Timing Feedings

Some breastfeeding books will tell you not to time your feedings, or in other words, look at the clock.  Personally, the clock has helped me tremendously.  This may sound crazy, but in the first months of sleep deprivation I couldn't tell the difference between 10 minutes or 20 minutes.  While breastfeeding, you don't specifically know how many ounces of milk your baby receives.  For me, I would measure it by the minutes. 

I conveniently had a digital clock nearby, so I would watch the clock.  In the beginning my baby would nurse about 20 minutes per side.  Sometimes it would be necessary to unlatch her or encourage her to keep nursing. Most newborns will fall asleep at the breast, so it's important to know how much longer they need to feed or if it's okay for them to stop.  If they've gone too long, then it's like you are now the baby's pacifier.  I'd rather switch to the other side when that happens :-)

After a while, I was so used to the clock that I would watch it while on road trips.  We would stop at a gas station or resting area for me to nurse.  I would watch the radio clock.  I would think to myself "as long as we can get at least 10 minutes on each side, we'll be okay".  If I am somewhere that doesn't have a clock nearby, I use my cell phone. 

This tip has helped me to not only measure each feeding, but also see the progression of weaning.  It has been interesting in these last few months because sometimes she'll only nurse 3 minutes per side.  It's amazing how weaning happens naturally.  What a beautiful thing! 

Pre-Pregnancy Jeans

Pre-pregnancy jeans.  They are our dream and our fear.  Dream that we can be the size we once were.  Fear that we may never be.

I am not an expert on exercise.  I am also not a model for Fitness Magazine.  However, I want to encourage you that it can happen.  You can wear your pre-pregnancy jeans again! 

It took me 7 months and 11 days.  I give most of the credit to lifting weights.  I had never been much of a gym person before.  It was a little intimidating, but I did some research and gave it a try.  I started noticing results after one full month.  All of these weight loss products and gadgets make you think that losing weight is easy or fast, but that is far from the truth!

Lifting weights is so important for women.  Mostly we think lifting is for men only so they can become big and muscular like Hulk Hogan.  However, that is a myth. Lifting weights is very important for our health.  Read this article about why women should lift weights. 

Let me share with you a few resources that have helped me understand exercise.  The first is the book Fitness For Dummies.  It is excellent!  Here are a few excerpts that are my favorite:

Why you've gotta lift weights

The only way to increase your metabolism is to build muscle, which you can best accomplish by lifting weights.  How does this work?  First, a couple of definitions: Your metabolism refers to the number of calories you're burning at any given moment, whether you're watching The Weather Channel or riding a bike.  But when most people use the term, they're referring to your resting metabolism, the number of calories your body needs to maintain its vital functions.  Your brain, heart, kidneys, and other organs are cranking away 24 hours a day, and your muscle cells are constantly undergoing repair.  All of these processes require energy in the form of calories simply to keep you alive.

But here's the key: Your resting metabolic rate depends primarily on your amount of fat-free mass - everything in your body that's not fat, including muscle, bones, blood, organs, and tissue.  The more fat-free mass you have, the more energy your body expends in order to keep going.  So, you want to be muscular.  You can't do anything to increase the size of your liver or brain, but you certainly can make yourself more muscular, and lifting weights is the primary way to do just that. 

If you don't lift weights, your metabolism will slow down every year, as your muscles slowly waste away.  And with a more sluggish metabolic rate, you'll gain weight even if you eat the same amount of food.  How's that for incentive to hit the weight room?
 

Another resource to learn exercise routines is www.muscleandstrength.com.  This link will show you how to work each muscle group.  You can click on each muscle and view videos of so many exercises!  It's awesome!   They have routines for beginners, intermediates, and advanced.  Try it out!

Vaccinations & Baby Tylenol

I wish I had known to give my baby Tylenol or baby acetaminophen before and after her first doctor visit.  We know that it is rough getting those first shots.  I think it was harder on me than her! However, I didn't know what was coming later.  A few hours afterwards she turned into a complete mess!  She was crying uncontrollably and it was impossible to calm her down. 

The doctor said "give your baby Tylenol if she gets a fever". The key word here is "if". I was waiting for a fever to arise and she never developed one.  Finally, without a fever, I gave her Tylenol and within 30 minutes she was back to normal.  Thank goodness!

All babies are different.  Your baby may not respond as mine did.  But just in case, this is what I learned... give her Tylenol at least 30 minutes before her appointment and 4-6 hours afterwards.  By the next morning the crankiness should go away.  Every appointment since has been okay for us. 

I use this acetaminophen chart as a dosage guide.  Keep in mind that not all droppers are the same.

The Mommy Club

Becoming a mother is like you're now a member of the "Mommy Club".

When I am out in public and see other mothers I can instantly relate. Just yesterday I saw a mom breastfeeding in the waiting area of a restaurant. She was doing it so well! She had a pretty scarf wrapped around her son's head and was very discreet. I definitely noticed her.  I admire mothers who can breastfeed in public and do it well. 

I also noticed another mom with a newborn.  Her baby couldn’t have been more than three months old.  Instantly, when I see these other moms I just want to reach out to them.  I want them to know that they’re not alone.  Many times, in the midst of another diaper change or bath time, I feel like I’m the only one feeling totally exhausted. 

We are not alone!  I have found that the best advice comes from connecting with other mothers.  What a wonderful club! 

I'm currently reading a book called Mom Connection: Creating vibrant relationships in the midst of motherhood by Tracey Bianchi.  In the second chapter she writes:

"Never Alone Yet Lonely: Motherhood, while marked as a life stage of peppy bliss, can produce tremendous anxiety and isolation all, interestingly enough, while a woman is not physically alone. As moms we have little people literally hanging on us all day. We sleep with kids, nurse kids, strap kids to our chests like kangaroo-like-carriers. We cannot leave the house, the car, the restroom without them. We are never physically alone and yet our souls starve for connection.

Often our best efforts at connection can be hijacked. Perhaps we finally make plans to connect with a new friend, only to wake up to a toddler with a fever of 102.9. Your poor pediatrician has just become the conversational high point of your day.

No amount of balance, wisdom, or insight can shape a perfect mother. Everyone struggles. We should find this tremendously freeing because it helps to know we do not struggle alone. The old cliche "misery loves company" applies.

At this life stage where emotions feel crisp and near crumbling, even a simple invitation can shape our days and weeks. Author Adele Calhoun says, "Invitations challenge and remake us. They can erode and devastate. And they can heal and restore us. Being wanted, welcomed, invited and included are some of the most mending experiences on the planet."
 

I can definitely relate to these words in Tracey's book.  I am comforted to know that I am not alone.  I hope this information is helpful to you as a mom.  We all have different struggles as mothers.  Just know that we can lean on each other.  :-)

Nursing Strike... Ouch!

A few weeks ago, my baby went on her first nursing strike.  It was an emotional and yet puzzling experience.  I found this article on BabyCenter.com that answered all of my questions. Please see below for some helpful information from the article:

What is a nursing strike?

A baby who refuses to breastfeed (and is not in the process of being weaned) is said to be on a "nursing strike." A nursing strike is your baby's way of telling you that something's wrong. And it'll probably take a little detective work to figure out the problem.

What causes it?

Here are some reasons your baby may go on a nursing strike:

• Mouth pain from teething, a cold sore, or an infection (such as thrush)
• An ear infection, which may cause pressure or pain while nursing
• A cold or stuffy nose, which can make breathing difficult while nursing
• Reduced milk supply or a slow letdown
• A major disruption in your baby's nursing routine or schedule
• If your teething baby has bitten you and your reaction startled him, he may be afraid to nurse after that.
• A change in soap or other toiletry that causes you to smell different to your baby
• A change in the taste of your milk, caused by a vitamin or drug or by hormonal changes (from pregnancy or your period, for example)

What can I do?

A nursing strike can be tricky for even the most dedicated breastfeeding mother. With patience and support, though, you can get through it.

A nursing strike usually lasts between two and five days, but it can go on longer.  While you continue to encourage your baby to nurse, you'll need to pump (or express your milk by hand) every few hours, or about as often as your baby had been nursing. This will help keep up your milk supply, prevent plugged ducts and engorgement, and provide your baby with the milk he needs. You can offer the expressed milk in a sippy cup, a bottle, a spoon, an eyedropper, or a feeding syringe.

Here are some ways to overcome a nursing strike:

• Try nursing when your baby is very sleepy. Many babies who refuse to nurse when they're awake will breastfeed when they're sleepy.
• Visit your baby's doctor to rule out medical causes (such as an ear infection or thrush) and seek feeding advice.
• Vary your nursing position. (Your baby may be more comfortable in one position than another.)
• Nurse in motion. Some babies are more likely to nurse when you rock or walk them than when you're sitting or standing still.
• Nurse in an environment that's free from distractions. It's common for a 6- to 9-month-old to go on a nursing strike as he becomes more aware of the world. Babies this age are easily distracted and often prefer to "snack" at the breast instead of settling down for a meal. Try nursing in a dimly lit, quiet room, away from the sound of the radio or television.
• Give your baby lots of skin-to-skin contact (try nursing without a shirt on or in a warm bath). A sling or carrier can help keep your baby close between nursing attempts.

It's easy to jump to the conclusion that a baby who doesn't want to nurse is weaning himself. But it's unlikely that a baby under a year old who has been successfully breastfeeding is ready to give up nursing. (An older baby may cut back in reaction to a new pregnancy, though.)

Breastfeeding Snacks

It is important to have many healthy snacks on hand while breastfeeding.  Hunger seems to strike often, and with a mom that is sleep deprived, quick and easy snacks are a must. The easy go-to's are granola bars, fruit, cheese sticks, nuts, whole grain crackers... anything that is easy to eat with one hand :-)  Don't forget the water!  Drink lots of water.  If you use a straw, it's much easier to drink the quantity you need.

When I take food to a new mom, I make Whole Wheat Cinnamon Muffins.  I use a mini-muffin tin so they're easy to grab and quick to eat.  In my opinion, this snack is great for day and night.  This muffin satisfies the middle of the night hunger, and the whole wheat flour makes it a healthy option.  You can make two batches and freeze one.  They're great!     

Whole Wheat Cinnamon Muffins

Whisk together in one large bowl:

1 ½ cup of Whole Wheat Flour (King Arthur 100% Whole Wheat)
½ cup chopped walnuts
1 ½ tsp baking powder
½ tsp baking soda
1 tsp cinnamon
¼ tsp salt

Mix in a separate bowl:

2 large eggs
2/3 cup brown sugar
5 Tbsp of melted butter
1 cup of unsweetened apple sauce

Add all ingredients in one bowl and combine well. Pour in a greased mini muffin pan.

 

Bake at 400 degrees for 18-20 minutes.

 

 

 

Breast Care & Frozen Diapers

As silly as it sounds, frozen diapers can provide relief to sore breasts during the first few weeks of breastfeeding.  Just add a little water to two newborn sized diapers and freeze them.  After a feeding, place the open diapers over your breasts.  They conveniently fit in all the right places, and provide a lot of comfort too.

Another tip: before a feeding, place a warm heating pad or warm wash cloth over your breasts.  The warmth helps the let down of your milk and it helps discomfort.

I remember wearing the frozen diapers after feedings.  They used to stick out of my nursing tank top. :-)  I must have looked silly, but it definitely helped!

Freezing Baby Food

Introducing solid foods to a baby is an interesting task.  It's introducing and re-introducing.  For convenience and trips it's easy to use the pre-packaged/store-bought baby foods like Gerber.  Trust me, I've used it several times.  However, I prefer fresh foods that I've prepared at home when it comes to feeding my baby nutritious food. 

I discovered the Super Baby Food book written by Ruth Yaron when my baby was 10 months old.  I wish I had found it months earlier!  It is packed full of great tips for introducing solids.  Click here to buy it on Amazon.  It is fantastic!

One of the most important tips, in my opinion, is how to freeze your baby food.  Many times I would introduce a new food and have to throw out the remaining food. She either didn't like it, or there wasn't enough time for her little tummy to eat it all.  Food spoils after a few days and that fact plays against you.  Freezing the food is so easy and inexpensive!


Here's how I do it...


Prepare the food as usual and divide it into ice cube trays. Each cube is 1 tablespoon.

 

Cover the ice cube tray with aluminum foil to prevent freezer burn. Place the tray in your freezer for approximately 8 hours (or overnight) to freeze the food completely.

 

Remove the cubes & place them in a marked freezer bag. Heat one or two cubes per meal as needed.

 

 



Gripe Water

I had never heard of gripe water until a friend recommended it to me.  It is very helpful!  It helps to relieve discomfort with stomach upset, teething, and hiccups.  My baby never took a pacifier or a bottle, so gripe water is what I turned to many times.  The dispenser is easy to use, and it relieved her hiccups every time!  I used Mommy's Bliss Original Gripe Water.

Click here for more details.

Surviving the nighttime feedings

Sleep is a valuable thing!  Have you ever heard the expression... you'll never appreciate something until you lose it?  When you lose sleep it affects every part of your day.  You can't think, talk, or sometimes eat.  I remember when sleep was more valuable than food.

How do you survive the around the clock feedings?  It's not just "midnight" feedings.  It's around the clock!  Here are a few tips to help you...

Tip # 1 Use a night light during the night.  It's never too early to start teaching your newborn the difference between night and day.  I use the Cloud b Twilight Constellation Night Light.  

It's a little ladybug that projects stars in colors of red, blue, and green. It's great! It's perfect for nighttime diaper changes and feedings.  It continues to be something my baby loves.  She'll be able to use it as a night light for years to come.

 

Tip # 2 When you're a breastfeeding mommy, you need to drink lots of water so you'll have frequent trips to the bathroom.  Use a night light in the bathroom too.  If you keep your environment dim during the night, it also keeps you in a "sleepy" state so you can go back to sleep easily.  Nothing is worse than a bright shining light blaring in your face at 4:00 am!

 

Tip # 3 Use black out curtains in your bedroom.  You never know when your little one will decide to sleep for a couple of hours.  It could be 2:00 pm and the sun is shining bright!  If you keep your room dark it will be easier to sleep in the middle of the day.

 

Tip # 4 Schedule your doctor's appointments, visitors, and trips during a convenient time of day.  If it's difficult to make an 8:00 am doctor appointment, then schedule it for the afternoon next time. 

 

Tip # 5 If you need help, ask for it!  Daily tasks such as laundry, cooking, and cleaning shouldn't get in your way of rest.  I remember wanting to do another load of laundry as soon as my baby went down for a nap.  True, laundry needs to be done.  Just make sure you're taking care of yourself :-)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Worries about SIDS

As mothers, it is natural for us to protect our children.  Whether they are first starting to walk or driving their first car.  I have said many times... I have never completely understood "worry" until I became a mother.

SIDS or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is a VERY scary thought for a new mother.  I probably lost more sleep just worrying about SIDS and my baby.  Reading all of the articles about SIDS can really be frightening.  It is something that we should be aware of, but we must not worry ourselves to the point of sleeplessness.

Listening to your mother's instinct is key.  Create a comfortable sleep environment for your baby, and make sure to use a tight fitting sheet on his or her crib.  Remove all toys, blankets, and stuffed animals.  Also, think about the temperature of your thermostat at home.  My husband likes it cold while I like it comfortable. ;-) Your baby's cheeks and hands will tell you if he or she is cold.

Recently, I read an article about a gentleman named Bill Schmid.  He and his wife lost their precious baby Haley to SIDS.  They created a product called the HALO Sleep Sack for SIDS prevention.  I think this is a wonderful product!  Click here for the article and a link to their website.

Nursing Bras

Nursing bras... full coverage and clip down.  Shopping for these for the first time can be a little strange. Bra advertisements sell us on how their bra will lift, support, and flatter.  However, it's not the same feeling when shopping for a nursing bra.  The goal is to provide comfort, support, and accessibility.  Accessibility??  Something that's not so common :-)

While I was pregnant, I went into Motherhood Maternity to shop for a nursing bra. I was approached by a sales woman.  I thought she was trying to "sell me" and pursuade me to buy several bras. I didn't realize at the time that she was actually giving me helpful advice.  Do not buy a nursing bra while you're pregnant.  Wait until after your milk comes in.  So helpful!

The style that I prefer most is the Seamless Lift Up Nursing Bra.  Click here to view this style.  This bra is the absolute best in my opinion!!!  You can wear any shirt in your wardrobe, you avoid the "bulge" in between feedings, and it provides great coverage with the built-in pads.  It is also very comfortable!

Girls, I promise you can go back to your cute and flattering bras after nursing.  Go for comfort now! 

Welcome to The Nursing Mommy Blog!

During the past 11 months of motherhood I have experienced many moments where the "light bulb" came on for me.  I thought "Goodness! If I had just known about this a month ago, my life would've been so much easier!" 

The purpose of this blog is to share all of these "light bulb" moments with you.  I want to encourage and empower all mothers through the journey of motherhood.  I plan to share tips on caring for a new baby, living with sleep deprivation, breastfeeding, and much more.

Breastfeeding isn't easy, however the benefits for you and your baby are priceless.  Join me as we embark on this journey together.  Share with other moms, moms-to-be, and grandmothers.  This is going to be fun!!